Saturday, July 12, 2014

So who feels like me?

I feel so restricted. I am here at home feeling like I am going through mindless internet browsing so I ask my house mates to hang out with me. Instead they go and watch stupid videos together leaving me here in this mindless monotony again.   I just wanted to do stuff with them. They keep telling me I have to tell them what to do or suggest something. Absolutely nothing comes to mind but the idea of us hanging out (generic picture in my mind). They persist in saying I have to suggest something. All I feel is I want to spend quality time with them. Why can't they engage with me in trying to figure out something we all can do together, showing that they care enough to meet my need for interaction with them? I can't just think of a specific thing to do of the top of my head. I can only think of the feelings, emotions, and fun I want to have and share with them.  Why can't they understand this? They keep saying "all you do is card games or sit on your phone mindlessly." Pointing out the very issue I am trying to avoid, isn't really helping the progression into something fun that we can all do together. Instead it creates much conflict and I feel so bad that I am causing all of this distress so I just internalize and shut down.  This, I know is a red flag but I don't know how else to deal. I feel very alone and I just want and long for a meaningful connection as simple as hanging out and enjoying each other; none of this stagnant, zone out on a computer crap.  To their credit they are also introverts and spent a lot of time today around mass amounts of people as did I. Still doesn't discount how I feel in all this. So let me ask this. Does anybody understand, maybe if only just a little, how I am feeling or understand why I am acting this way? I have a deep longing that keeps persisting and I don't know how to deal with it or fill its thirst.